If in the snap of a finger we could block out the noise of the world so we could experience true inward focus, it would be easier to run a business and a lifestyle we love. To be still, to feel still, and not overwhelmed by trying to have attention on everything all the time would be a true miracle. For me, this is my happiness goal.
Yoga, meditation, crystal healing, tapping, reading, walking, laying, loving… I try it all, I do it all, and it’s ALL for the same reason, to be still and focused so I can hear myself from within. This can feel like a vacation at times.
Why is the world so loud and boisterous? Why must everyone be doing and speaking all at the same time?
Well, it seems like that to me most of the time. I am an empath. I *feel* more than I express. Running a company can be tricky if the buzz of the world is in your ear and vibrating through your body every waking and sleeping moment. Do you feel this way? You may be an empath. The same buzz that makes me feel thrilled and high-vibe can also be too much and drain me like a tall glass of Perrier and a twist of lime!
What exhausted me even more was not allowing myself space when things become too energized. You see, with the way the world is available to us and switched on 24/7, we don’t realize that sometimes we need to create our own off button. The world can go from still to a frenzied state in just hours. This will affect our moods, decisions, and outcomes more than we admit. You may not even notice it’s happening because you’re used to it feeling this way.
I want you to discover and learn to be in love with yourself a lot faster than I did! For so long I didn’t think I had a choice and while I thought I was happy, the world was draining me completely until one day I just slept and quit. I ignored the emails, phone calls, private messages, notifications, texts, that other inbox I have, Asana, and whatever else is trying to get a hold of me 24/7. I stopped and listened to my body. My inner goddess was taking an emergency vacation or what others call “burn out.” The list of symptoms below was how I felt at the time.
Do you feel this way or experience more than one of these symptoms or thoughts? If so, you may be due a mini social media and business break!
Checking social media more than 5x a day
A high buzzed feeling that lasts too long
Lower back pain
Feelings of missing out or missing something
Turning screen lights low, they’re too bright
Most time spent working than with self or family
Most people have more than one of these same symptoms I bet. If you are one of them, say yes and start admitting and making plans to care for your mind and body by giving her nourishment through a social media break. It’s okay to take time away if you need it. Even just a couple of days is a great breather. Nothing will fall apart and you will feel so much better than that terrible list above! You deserve this and it’s time to revive so we can kick some ass this last quarter of 2017!
What’s even more interesting, and a great reason for you to consider taking your own mini vacation, is that once I started doing this, I created better decisions in my life and business, felt and looked better, created more opportunities and made a sufficiently higher income. I was shocked to have such dramatic results so quickly just by taking time to myself and a break from feeling I have to do anything. There will always be more work to do and so waiting for a time when it will not be there is not realistic.
The world will feed your fire endlessly which is not healthy. Start listening within, love yourself, be kind to you, hear what needs attending to and stop making up stories of why you don’t have time to stop. That’s a lie and I don’t want you to lie anymore. If I stopped so can you. You will not miss the opportunity of a life’s time or be forgotten…what you will be is happy.
I was so excited the day I launched Red Unicorn Media! I had everything any lady boss could ever dream of wanting to have for that big day and I didn’t spend a penny. I was proud of not having to invest in any of the brand elements because that’s what I do for living. I had everything I ever needed. Website? Check. Logo? Check. Social media cover art? Check. Sales pages? Check. Facebook ads? Check. Email marketing plan? Check. Everything was up and all I had to do was wait for that first client. They’ll be here any second I thought. I mean, I’m amazing and have worked for places like Rolling Stone, so yes, they’ll be here within moments I thought to myself. I even put a couple posts out there to let everyone know that business was open and all they must do is click a link and boom we will be working together!
But still, for days and days, I heard crickets. My momentum came to a complete halt, and pretty soon after, that seemingly beautifully positive day became a lonely and sad story I was writing all by myself. This sad moment was not even two weeks into building my business.
I was devastated.
Sound familiar? This is a pretty common story around the entrepreneur community and I have a ton of them about me and so I am a lot like you only I am at a much better level of success in the online business world now. But I will never forget and vow to share my stories with you rain or shine.
“I can tell you that it doesn’t matter what you have or how you look. Logos and websites do not make you successful at all until you conquer your inner demons, believe in yourself, and start building relationships damn it.”
No one knows you, no one trusts you, testimonies can be forged, and we are not going to work with someone who essentially feels like a robot to us.
Online, people work with people, not logos. We trust in imperfection and authentic people who have “opened up” to us. Your visibility online is always suffering in the beginning. To make it big you must talk to us and create a real relationship with your audience by being more open about who you are. If you believe that your logo and website is the only way you’ll be understood and taken seriously than you don’t understand how credibility works online yet.And that’s okay. Now you can choose to do something about it. You now have the opportunity to let go of your props, smoke, mirrors, and beliefs, that “showing up” in all your glorious and positive perfection is going to make you money. Because it’s not!
Here are some tips to get you going down a path where you will make money and start being able to deliver your products or services to the world. If your life’s purpose is on the line it is time to rewrite your story and your brain to realize that the gold is inside of you and we want to see more of who you are. If you don’t, you will constantly struggle, and your business will end before it even begins. I’ve seen hundreds of times. Mindset and creating relationships by experimenting with your story and “showing up” is the foundation work you must do prior to all the pretty “professional” stuff. That’s just a nice dress that shows off the goods. So, show us your goods lady! The right time is always right now.
13 Quick and Straight-forward Tips:
Go livestream every day and talk about anything until you feel comfortable.
Create a list of topics you can talk about that don’t directly relate to your business.
Show people more about who you are as a person and leave out the
business stuff for a bit.
Tell people why you do what you do. What is your story and why are you here?
Find time to look at other people’s post and comment thoughtfully.
Start taking selfies. Do it! It is like a daily hello. We don’t look like our profile picture everyday. So, when people meet you and you look totally different? That’s a red flag in the trust department. Be real.
Start a Facebook group around your passion and bring people together.
Send out inspiring messages coupled with a personal story on why you now understand this inspiring moment you’re sharing.
Start a list of your own personal quotes and pair it with a content library of images. Stop sharing everyone else’s quotes. If you want to be a leader write your own 99% of the time.
10.Start writing and writing and writing about who you are and how you can help people because of the path you’ve gone down. We don’t appear out of nowhere in total perfection. Our dreams are always fueled by experiences. What are yours?
11.Stop trying to prove and convince us of how awesome you are and just do the other 10 things I just told you to do. Show us the goods woman!
12.Be yourself. If that’s swearing and wearing no make up, then do it. If that’s raising butterflies and having fun, be that. If you’re an empath obsessed with lying naked in the grass, tell us about it. We want to know YOU and everyone has a tribe. Everyone! Time to match your vibe with your tribe. Let’s take this all to the next level girl!
Try everything for a little while so you have the experience. Know when to quit something that doesn’t resonate with you. It’s okay not to want a Sales funnel, just make sure you understand why you’re not doing it. If it’s because you suck at putting them together than that’s not a great reason because you could simply have me do it. Know the difference between not loving something and needing support for a skill. We can’t do everything everyday all the time. Someday, when I have a robot, I will be able to. But until then, I do have a support team that I’ve built and that I love.
“Take a big deep breath and simply let go of all the rules someone else made up that now you are following.”
Take a step out of your box and be honest with yourself about your fears. None of us are perfect and this is a great moment to be a leader. And guess what? Leaders fuck up all the time! And that is the beauty of it all! They fail and fail and fail until they get it right inside and out. It’s called experimenting and leaders are constantly moving forward because of all their failures. They take notes and start again.
Can you imagine a world of scientists or inventors who only tried out a few ways of doing something? Oh my gosh, our society would be in the dark ages! Lol! You must continue to experiment with your visibility and mindset daily until your recipe whips up something magical and yummy or glamourous and sexy. Whichever you prefer darling.
Be good to yourself and have fun with your soul path! You deserve this.
You know who you are, do I need to point it out? Okay, I will! Never have I had the problem of judging other brand identities for their own good of course! Hehe! Let’s start with my online brand identity crisis story first. Yes, I screw up too!
My first steps into the online realm were more like tiptoes. Although I had all the experience in the world (Big brand recognition, art & advertising degree, and all the tools any lady-boss would need or want) there, I was, hiding behind my name and feeling pretty damn alone and unsure of everything! Of course, I didn’t reach out to anyone because that would have implicated I was not a leader in my industry. (my first mistake! Always reach out and band together. We are not alone.)
I was so professional that building a trustworthy reputation with actual personality was null and void. My hiding went on for months. What I see now is a wall I put up way before I went into business. In essence, I was protecting myself from being judged, and in this, I was failing big time at every turn. It was a lot of work, felt draining, and created only enough money to pay the bills. I was happy to be out of the corporate cubicle life, but I didn’t feel the full connection to what my next steps were and how the rest of the year was going to look like and I had anxiety and cried almost every week.
I had 2 choices at this point in my journey:
1.) Keep being as professional as possible because people will eventually notice and respect my overall appearance and invest in me. More ads, more promos, more branding! (Not! Boring! Crash-n-Burn! Shallow!)
2.) Re-think my approach to my visibility by understanding how to create relationships through letting my walls fall to let people see who I am and what I offer on a personal and professional level. (This was a terrifying choice! it was the right one.)
Choosing #2 was against everything I trusted and trained for in my corporate life; it felt wrong. My entire body said, “don’t do this.”
Nothing in my life or business was working so choosing #2 became my obsession and mantra in life. I stood firm and decided to unlearn everything and channel someone who I hadn’t talked with in a while…my inner child. She was not afraid, and truth-be-told, she was pretty pissed off that I had been living such a structured and boring life. I immediately went off the rails and decided to let my light shine as bright as it could and essentially stand naked in front of the world. I didn’t have as much to lose as I convinced myself I did. What worried me at this point in my life was not being the inspiring and intelligent woman my brand identity said that I was. That is what made me feel like an imposter in my life. So, I began the BIG experiment and started over in my messaging, story, and overall approach to online visibility and creating relationships. Long story short, I now am a visibility and brand expert that lives with total freedom and works on a global level with women who are ready for more in life.
Is your brand an empty shell? Are you hiding behind your logo and website copy? Does showing off scare you? Have been thinking about sharing yourself wholeheartedly with the world but afraid we may not like what we see or hear? Does business feel like work and drain the energy from your very being leaving you lifeless for your family? I thought running a business was going to be fun and empowering. In the beginning, it was super hard and felt like a lot of resistance. It was all my fault that I took the approach I did. But it also became part of my journey. I made a decision, and I want you to know that no matter how elevated you may be right now, there is always room to grow. People work with people, not logos.
So, you might be excited right now and feeling like it is time to become more than *just* a brand. Woot woot! I have your back and am thrilled when a woman at every level of business want to embark on this kind of authentic path. Here are some things to do right away to get more in touch with your business and brand.
It’s great to have a team create content for you. I certainly do, and it is amazing to free up time. BUT, too many times I see lady bosses relying almost 100% on their systems that other people have created for them. Consider reaching out by live broadcast at least once a week to talk with your audience. You will not only create deeper relationships with the fans you already have but attract more amazing people to your tribe. You have 5 minutes a week to do this. Try it out right now. Stop reading and go broadcast live on Facebook, Periscope, Twitter, and Instagram. Think of a broad topic that you’re passionate about and just do it.
Start a brand inspire Pinterest board and start pinning images that not represent what your brand might look like as a person, a piece of art and as a package. Yep, pin images that are full of emotion. Examples of general keywords I start with to find for my clients are Vogue photography, packaging design, typography, color palette, crystals, paintings, empowerment, flowers, and much more. In these broad range searches, you can then become more accurate by adding more to your search. Such as, “business woman photography blue” or “retro hand lettering red” are a couple of great examples. And start pinning away as if no one will ever see this particular board of yours. In fact, in the board settings, you can make it secret if you would like to. With pure creative abandonment go nuts and then take a look at how this board makes you feel in the end. Does your brand feel aligned with what you just created? If not, it is time to make some adjustments and get back to what you naturally and intuitively love.
Experiment all the time with your online persona! It is a difficult move for any woman. Embedded deep inside our bodies at a molecular level is the need to be perfect and serve others. It can be a great thing if you use it correctly. I love perfectionism because it calls upon the best of best in the world to get shit done! But it can also keep you from being yourself and getting creative. Especially if you are on the upswing in your career and feel nervous about messing with a formula that seems to be working. You see, the thing is, if you’re not experimenting then eventually you are going to putter out. Your business needs to be refreshed all the time to experience growth. Through “play time” you will get messy. You will also have aha moments and shifts that are at epic levels. There is always work to do, and you will never have it all perfect.
The first step is admitting you have a problem. Ha! It is true.
Accept the fact that yes you may be hiding behind your brand identity. Admit you may also be holding back on your whole story and messaging around it. Now prove to yourself that you are ready to get creative and play around with your business by doing something else today with it. A big adjustment can be hiring a brand expert to walk through this with you. A small change may be updating your profile picture to show off the true blue you. The best way is to start writing and showing up authentically for yourself. Know that failure will happen and this is where the magic begins. Here is the real beginning, no matter how long you have been at this crazy exciting life of an entrepreneur.
What if I gave you everything that you ever needed to rival big brands like Apple right now… Do you think you could carry it through and be successful? Nope. Here is why: Your business is not a franchise. I cannot give you the tools and expect you to carry them as I would if you’re not involved in the process of creating it. Immerse yourself if the knowledge that you will not lose clients if they truly know who you are. Immerse yourself in your brand today. We want to see and know you.
Before diving deeper into why I wanted to do what I do… I felt like I was standing on the edge of the water, standing there I only saw the wide-open ocean. I knew that on the other side there was something great waiting and calling to me. Now I am in a big boat crashing through the sea and writing my story. Most of my life I was too afraid to make the journey. What we don’t see, we create big stories with to fill that void. The stories are there to validate our fears for the most part. It is normal. But do you want to be normal? Or would you rather be extraordinary?! Be afraid that is okay. But be courageous enough to step into your power and tell all of us what that is by leaving all the rules behind and becoming more of who you are already.
Tell us all about it! That is where the brand identity is, in your story. We cannot make you a template for this part!
Sitting on the cement stoop of my little house in the city in my polka dress (some fashion statements never go away) eating pixie sticks and thinking about how imperfect everything was I smiled. The smile came from a pact I created at that very moment of misery. Some people make promises, but I was so serious about my goal I created a rule that I would only show up in life with my best foot forward! I thought I was a genius because everyone around me was falling apart and clearly not showing the best of who they were. It was Summer 1989, and my new sugar infused power pact with myself was all about being perfect in front of the world. My idea was not *just* a promise, but a perfect and fruitful lifestyle. At that very moment, I grew up, and I was only 9. I couldn’t wait to be better than everyone else. I knew it was my duty to be everything different than my current surroundings and I started building a life that reflected the perfect outcome. In fact, I remember being so ready to conquer the game of life that I asked my mum when I was allowed to move out and become an adult. I let her know I was ready immediately. Lol!
Fast forward ten years later and I was already moved out and in the workforce proving myself to the world. We never really have the patience to live in today and to breathe in the air of our current reality, do we? I had so many goals and was knocking things like college degrees and fancy titles off my life list like I was Muhammed Ali of the office life! I became one of the youngest assistants promoted to manager at Rolling Stone and had tried almost every sport, modeled, played the cello, learning about every significant person ever, and accomplished any and all art techniques out there. I come to life with a fearless strut, and a laser focused energy. I was training myself to be amazing, so I thought. I was doing things that my family was never meant to achieve. Our status was a bit more mundane, and I always made sure to hide that as best I could. I should have been feeling great because that was the plan. But, all I could think about most of the time was how no one really knew me, and I was exhausted from being spectacular all the time. It is kind of weird writing about this by the way! It feels as if I am telling a story about someone else. She was scared, fearful, and didn’t like anything; but no one knew that, and it was her job to make sure it stayed that way. Out in the world, she (me) was meant to be seen as perfect. (Whatever that meant!)
Through all my wins, I always felt like a failure. I never even went to my college graduation. There were always flaws and always a disappointment with every step I took. It wasn’t easy being me and at some point, the idea of taking a drink after work or during rough times became routine. Everyone needs to let off a bit of steam, right?! Well, after the economy crashed in 2008 I lost my job, and that was like losing my identity. I no longer was the cool girl who worked at Rolling Stone or the bread winner. I lost everything including my home. I felt like I was turning to vapor and would soon be blown away by a strong wind. All I had left was me, and I did not know who I was anymore. I had indeed created a monster who was obsessed with showing up in life in the “perfect” way. I wasn’t even sure what the definition of perfect meant to me anymore and it was getting harder to succeed. In fact, I mostly failed myself, my family and the world for a while during this part of my story.
At some point, we found a little place in the country, and I sat and listened to the wind a lot. I would watch the trees move around and see the clouds float by and think about how it would feel to be a bird up there free from the all the troubles and bad decisions I made. I went cold and in essence, quit my life for a while. All I wanted to do was listen to nature and be. I started dressing down and not wearing makeup. I mean, you don’t have to get dressed up for the deer, do you?! Ha! At some point during this year long meditation, I decided that I hated everything that I had been doing which felt overwhelming. When you build your entire life around a concept and philosophy that all of a sudden doesn’t work, it seems like a black hole. Everything became super scary because I was about to let the world in on a secret…. that I am not perfect and I am okay with that. I thought the world would reject me, but at this point of my story I was a shooting star, and I was on fire and being shot through the sky whether they liked it or not! Yep, and of course, I knew that I would fail and no one would like the real me. I was wrong.
So who is this “real” me?
She is a macaroni eating flirt that laughs and jokes around all the time lounging in her unicorn pajamas outside on the deck with her movie star sunglasses, jazz playing, dog hair on her shirt with an oversized cup of gourmet coffee. I am clumsy sometimes (okay all the time), and I would rather be laying in the grass with my shoes off with my family around and picking tomatoes and peppers out of the garden than just about anything else. I make mistakes all the time and don’t embarrass easily thanks to my past life. I eat too much candy and love watching old movies into the night when I probably should be reading about philosophy, working, or learning about important world events. I have skin problems and weight issues I hide and am currently trying to solve. I don’t care about material things as much as I used to but cannot have enough crystals around my house. I fear bees, flies, and mosquitos and will over react around them! I don’t follow the rules hardly ever and can be a total control freak. Ha! I was once was vegan for a couple of weeks but can’t help but to love a big steak and potatoes dinner. Hey, I am from Michigan people, we eat steak here. Even though I am in love my media company and all the amazing things I do, I dream about being an athlete in the Olympics. (dreams can come true for anyone who puts in the works even if they are closer to 40 than they’ve ever been. Lol!) Most of all, I love to have fun and create an exciting atmosphere.
The cool thing is that I would NEVER have gotten to a place of knowing and accepting the true blue me had I not created that first Facebook account. I always thought social media was not for someone like me. I was private. But the truth is, I was private because I held onto many fears and the impossible pact I made long ago that I would only show the perfect side of me. When I began revealing layer by layer who I am and what I am all about, I found women from around the world who accepted the entire package. They love the goofy, the serious, the mistakes, the experiments, all the good and the bad. And that still floors me to this day that I sit and write my story down.
But why did I finally decide to show every facet of who I am? Great question! Little by little as I revealed my essence to the world, my soul path became evident, and my purpose grew in strength. I knew that I wanted to service women entrepreneurs by helping them achieve visibility and empowerment through brand identity. I knew that I was an artist and began to create again. I found lifelong friends who support me and a global media company that is fun and filled with everything that sustains me personally and professionally. The more I embrace and share who I am and what I do, the more successful I become. In the past, my success always felt like a room with the walls closing in and a ceiling that never budged. Now, the sky’s the limit, and I feel like the bird in the sky I watched for hours among the clouds with only possibilities instead of worries and doubt.
Are you hiding behind a bunch of requirements, rules, and ideals, that you believe will show off the most perfect representation of who you are and create the life you are dreaming of? Maybe it is time to breath and experience what it is like to be in love with who you are. I am not saying this is simple but planting the seed is a start. Begin by simply logging into Facebook today and live-streaming with the intention of just being you and saying hello to the world in all your imperfect perfection.
My advice: It is absofuckinglutely okay to grow in front of the world.
I have never been good at lying. I always got caught in a web of creative stories as a kid and quickly found out that I wore my heart on my sleeve and wasn’t good at hiding my feelings.
I had no idea that I was hiding things from myself!
But apparently, sometimes we don’t listen to ourselves as much as we would like to admit. I thought I was doing everything right!
Read on for the full story!
There are tips at the end you can use right away.
A word before the LIE…
Waking up naturally and on time has always been a gift built into my DNA. I suppose I have a lineage of family members from times past that had to get up with such intensity that now it just happens for me. It’s simple. It’s automatic. I imagine my ancestors waking up to change their lives. Having responsibilities and exciting dreams to fulfill. (Well, that is my dream of them. I don’t know who they were, really.) I am actually in the process of getting assistance for putting my family tree together. I’ll be getting a DNA test to find out as much as possible about the people who gave me life, gave me gifts, and led me to you. The chain of events in life is mind-blowing to me, and I think about it often.
The random events and the deliberate situations that resulted in my reality as I write this out–wow! It all happened before anyone I know was even alive. We all stem from an ancient chain of events and with one small mistake and another success…we came to be here for our short stay.
I have to tell you the truth to start off with…before I tell you how I lied to the Universe. The truth is, right now I realize that without all the disappointments or failures I would not be here talking to you today. Every single failure on my part has been another idea that didn’t work, which means I am testing and evolving as a person and a company. Without failure, I would not know change. Without change, I will never know success. The more results I get the better I understand me and what does work. This is such a simple concept that only took a few sentences to write, which is kind of disappointing for me considering it took me up until NOW to make it part of my life.
Now my story about how I lied to the Universe:
That day was so amazing! It was the one when I had it “up to HERE” with the standard and predictable way I had tolerated mediocre. I looked around and felt entirely disgusted and with my eyes wide open, I made some drastic changes. The first change was to start manifesting a life I dreamed about. That would begin with restructuring my business and making the money I deserved. Sounds exciting, doesn’t it?! It was. I was so fucking high vibe and ready to conquer the world and had no time to spare! I wanted it all! I wanted to “eat the whole cake” as they say. So, I made a pact with myself to think positively about my money mindset so I would manifest a regular income that matched my plans. I began to think positively and tell the universe my plans, strategy and all about the money that I was gladly inviting into my life. I told her that I was ready to receive. Yep…here I am, ready to receive…hello? Universe…are you there?! I am so ready to receive and accept my new life. Here I am! Hello? Nothing…not a peep. She didn’t say a word. I didn’t feel anything. (I wanted to believe I felt something!)
I kept trying to stay positive and think about my old paradigms around
what I deserved and began meditating and all that jazz.
Although my biz did make some great changes, if I asked myself at any point if I was satisfied and felt that I was where I thought I’d be from the day I made the awesome claim to live the life of my dreams, I’d politely tell myself no. It felt horrible and although I was being my rock and roll unicorn self on the outside and kind of on the inside, too…it wasn’t what I expected! I was working so hard and it was not weighing out. I couldn’t understand it. I was even asking for help and felt I was doing all the right moves. It was odd and deep deep down in my truth I was feeling defeated. That secret seed of defeat fed the lies I didn’t realize I was telling.
You see, I learned from an amazing friend that the universe only understands energy. Because of this when I thought I was truly asking to receive through conscious meditations and daily journaling…in the background, I was sending out my panic message and the clear message that I was feeling defeated. So the universe gave more of that. She gave me more and more of what I was truly asking for. It was hard to realize this because it felt as if I did so much work for nothing. Like so much time had wasted. I felt defeated about being defeated…and so it got even worse.
And then I pulled that little lie by its roots out of the virtual garden of dreams and future energy.How’d I do that you ask? Here are some solutions that helped me get over my money story filled with lack and get comfortable with being uncomfortable. (If you missed last weeks blog on The Fear of Being Visible Online, check that out too!) I had to change my energy patterns and that is not easy. I still sometimes find myself calling old energy up that I haven’t fully cleared. But as I accepted the challenge of knowing I had been lying I quickly started seeing the changes I longed to see since the beginning.
I allowed myself to be upset or depressed about it but as soon as these emotions surfaced I trained my brain to signal a time limit. It started off longer and got shorter and shorter and easier to initiate. Time limits for emotional breakdowns are like goals, and we all need goals to create structure in our lives.
I faced my problems head on by finding out everything I could about them. For me, my debt was killing me and my learned response was to hide from it. So I didn’t know much about it except that I constantly told myself that I would never pay it off and was in a mess. Instead, I found out everything, got a lawyer, and began finding the solutions that everyone agreed upon. Clarity in my money story was KEY! Without the whole story, real financial figures and a plan, I would be nowhere today. It is important to fight your demons with knowledge. It is liberating!
Every day I told myself that I mattered and my voice was important for people to hear. Our brain is like your laptop computer but much more advanced. It easily holds onto fear and messages. Send the right messages and “program” your brain to think the way you wish you could. It literally is that easy. It just takes a while!
Start journaling about your money story. This is so important because you will discover through writing how a lot of your thought patterns were fed to you as a child. What do your mom and dad think about money? What do they think about you and money? A lot of our “stories” are not really ours, we decided to own them. You can own another story script! Write your own story and stick to the script, woman!
Accept your problems and look at them as a scientist would. Step away and look down on yourself and start experimenting! Yep! I do this all the time. I become the “3rd party” scientist failing and succeeding in all areas of my life. If you’re failing it is okay as long as you keep experimenting. You cannot get to the solutions if you are standing still. Keep moving that brain of yours. I used to take everything so personally but this creative “scientist” method has made it easier.
Get pissed! (Not drunk if you’re from England! LOL!) But seriously, get mad and feel the passion. I did. Anger is totally okay when used correctly. It can be very passionate and give you the energy to move forward when it feels like no one has your back.
Know that we have your back. I often felt alone. And that is because I was. I turned down help and hid all my emotions from EVERYONE. How can we help you if you keep acting like everything’s okay and you don’t need us?!
When you feel yourself sinking into the old scripts about how worried you are about the bills and the kids and the business and your love life, etc…use that as your big Marilyn Monroe movie cue! Lights, camera, ACTION! I often put my emotions on stage. Getting creative with my mindset has been the biggest key to opening the doors to success. And Marilyn is definitely used all the time for personal achievement. When I feel those icky feelings creeping into my mind and words, it is a cue for my brain to become something more. To start the show, have fun and get to work. A lot of times this starts by wiping my tears and putting on my favorite red lipstick.
ASK FOR HELP – Have the courage to ask for help but don’t play this as a game. Ask for help from people who will hold you accountable for solutions. It is important that your closest friends and business besties have the ability to say, “What the hell is going on with you and let’s fix this!” The truth can hurt but it can also be an alarm to get you out of that track you keep running.
Color outside of the lines. Be okay with taking another route or path. Shake things up by creating new routines.
Literally, shake your body! I shake my hand, arms, and belly a lot. It feels good and was taught to me by a good friend. (Therese Tucker of Spirit 4 Success!) She told me that it clears the old energy out. And that is exactly what it feels like! So get up right fucking now and take your belly (big or small) in both hands and shake it out. Laugh if you want! That is even better. Then shake out your hands and arms. It’s fun and resets my energy patterns in my body instantly. I love it. One of my favorite tricks!
Finally, listen to YOU. I found that I already know all the answers and know the things I need and want to do. It is my mindset and old stories floating in my heart that kept me from making the leaps. Really listen to yourself and ask what you want today and for the rest of your life. Then, stop acting like it is impossible! It is not. Everything you want is attainable if you decide to take inspired action.
Watch my personal and honest talk about all of this by clicking below!
Enjoy and let me know your comments!
PS. Stop asking others what they think about you, your biz and anything else. Make all the decisions yourself. It is not up to them anymore to make decisions for your life. Your achievements and failures must be credited to you and you alone. For this is when you will feel the shift and life will blossom like a purple orchid in the sunrise of your morning.